learn from my mistakes

So I'm 28 now and while I'm still a baby by most accounts. I've learned a lot from the things I shouldn't have done but did repeatedly. I've let many men take advantage of me in different ways but the fact remains you can't do the same things the same ways and expect different results. I have learned to say no and grow some balls...if they leave they leave its truly their loss because I've seen what kind of woman I am and I'm pretty damn good. I've given money with nothing in return except to be forgotten about or shoved into the somebody category when the one I supported got on his feet and starts making his own money. does it hurt hell yeah but am I mad not anymore...im still going to be a big hearted person I'm not going to care any less but I will be more careful and I will demand respect as a woman I have every right to. I would like to know why men in their late 20's early 30's in particular feel like we owe them something as if they can have what they want but don't need to do anything in return. like I've heard that more than once this week. you can disappear when it's date night but when you want to get in my.bed its all about me yeaaaa no even if we accept it that does not mean we're dumb enough not to see what's going on or that we will accept your pathetic offer again. our heads are in the game too we just choose when to showcase it. Oh and being a friend first truly leads to amazing relationships I can stand by that but dammit ladies do not let these idiots get all the privileges of being your man while he's calling you his "friend" make him man up and call you what you are...his woman...once again if he leaves its gonna suck but there's someone whose waiting to make it better...until next time bye luvs. :-) sincerely in a happy place